It comes when you stop looking for it.
How to be happy in yourself | Emma Cook | Life and style | The Guardian

The restless quest to alter aspects of our lives is intimately linked to self-esteem. “In evolutionary terms, we don’t have to worry about lions and tigers any more; instead we’re constantly vigilant about the modern-day predator, the person who will spot that we’re no good,” Williams says. “That generates a lot of preoccupation, and low self-esteem goes hand-in-hand.”

This whole article is worth a serious read. I’m glad I ran across it.