The following may or may not be helpful if you know someone who’s struggling to stay positive or to stay on an even keel emotionally. I’m totally stealing it as a tactic, because the Midwestern Change-The-Subject Discomfort doesn’t really offer viable options for talking to someone about problems they may have, where Southern In-Your-Face Comfort does.
Not that we’re talking anything about anything specific here, just taking note of a useful tactic.
I donâ€™t want to embarrass anyone, so Iâ€™m not going into specifics, but I also want to write about this, because Iâ€™m totally stealing it as a tactic. So, Iâ€™m out with friends, one of whom has been noticeably down and not in the â€œIâ€™m going to write poetry and listen to the Cureâ€ way but in the â€œOne more thing and Iâ€™m going to start beating people with the people I beat just before themâ€ way.
So, my Southern friend says â€œblah blah blah, weâ€™ve noticed things arenâ€™t okay and weâ€™re concerned about you.â€
And the other friend says, â€œNo, Iâ€™m fine, really.â€
Now, if we were all Midwestern, the Silence of Youâ€™re Totally Bullshitting Us would have descended. If youâ€™re from the Midwest or related to Midwesterners, youâ€™ve experienced this and you know the level of how much we think youâ€™re bullshitting us is indicated by how long the Silence of Youâ€™re Totally Bullshitting Us goes on. Then, we all talk about you behind your back until word gets back to you and you realize we have concerns.
via Tiny Cat Pants